I lost my baby last nite.

[nat's angel]

Hello everyone-just wanted to let all of you know I lost my little girl-Daisey-early this morning due to complications during surgery for a spay and pallet operation. She passed on what would have been her 8 month birthday. She had a lot of allergies both to food and inhalent particles, so the jury is out on what caused the respiratory arrest that ended her short life(could've been the surgery or the anesthesia or even a pre-op med) they are not certain. My vet who performed the surgery is a Frenchie breeder herself and has done hundreds of these operations without this sad outcome. She and her staff attempted heroic efforts to save our baby but lost the fight. I guess the only thing I can say is that if your Frenchie is very food or particulate allergic have the full allergy(skin patch) test done before they have any type of surgery or procedure. I want to thank everyone particularly the moderators and FranP for the invaluable advise you've given over the months as this was our first Frenchie. I am so heartsick over her passsing I don't know if I'll ever be able to own another dog. Again thank-you all for your input over the last few months and please say a prayer for my little girl. Nat's Angel

[gmacleod]

Oh dear. I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of Daisey :( It's always hard to lose a pet, and especially unexpectedly like that. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[My2Frenchies]

I am heartbroken for you after reading about your loss. I am so sorry. Please know that you, your family and your sweet little angel, Daisey are in my thoughts.

[lovemyfrenchy]

That is so sad. I am soooo sorry. Peace be with you.

[Linnysmommy]

I am so sorry for your loss.:(

[chickenjudy]

I cried while reading your post as I just went through the very same thing right before Christmas <<<HUGS>>>> I know the pain, the questioning and the sadness you are feeling and can only say I am so sorry....Take comfort in knowing you gave her the best life possible in the short time you had her and remember all the happy times......

[franp]

I wish there were words to tell you how I am feeling..how my heart aches with the pain I am feeling with you...and for you..

May your grief be eased by the love that you had for Daisey..May she play beyond the Rainbow bridge; all her fields will be green...her days happy..No pain...She is with every pet that has been loved and lost by all of us here..

I am sooo sorry.

[wendykei]

I'm very sorry to hear about Daisey. My thoughts are with you!

[cookiesmug]

What a terrible loss, I can't even start to imagine what you're going through...
I don't know what to say to possibly ease your pain, except that we're all here for you and keep you in our thoughts.
Daisey is a little angel now, she's in a good place...

[ev960d]

Oh God! I'm so sorry to hear about Daisey. I'm no good with words but I found this poem...hope it will help you.

"The light of my life"

You have to stay this time mummy
I now have to be free
Don't be so sad mummy
for now I'm at peace
Let go of your pain, let it take part of you
because from out of these ashes, a new life will bloom
Don't look for me in places I have been
I am in your heart mummy
and inside your soul
..and everything that reminds you of me
see, I'm not really gone
Don't be lost in the dark
or scared when you're alone
My spirit is near you, and my light will shine on

'to be blind and not see her magic and what she's given me
- to sit in the dark alone and not embrace what love I've been shown
now that, would be the tragedy'

written by Amanda

[luvnkitty]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope all the beautiful memories of your little Daisy helps your heart heal.

Tribute To A Best Friend

Sunlight streams through window pane
unto a spot on the floor....
then I remember,
it's where you used to lie,
but now you are no more.

Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
and muted echoes sound....
then I remember,
It's where your paws would joyously abound.

A voice is heard along the road,
and up beyond the hill,
then I remember it can't be yours....
your golden voice is still.

But I'll take that vacant spot of floor
and empty muted hall
and lay them with the absent voice
and unused dish along the wall.

I'll wrap these treasured memorials
in a blanket of my love
and keep them for my best friend
until we meet above.

- Author Unknown

[roxyluv]

So sorry to hear about your loss. Please take comfort in knowing that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time, and that Daisey is watching over you from the other side of the Rainbow Bridge.

[Carolyn]

Your post was painful to read...what a tragic loss. I am so sorry.

[miss heather]

what a tragedy. we are so very sorry to hear of your loss.
know that you and your family are in our thoughts.

[beignet]

I am very very sorry to hear of your loss. :(

[nat's angel]

I just wanted to thank everyone for their kindness, thoughts and prayers for us and Daisey. I was particularly moved by the two poems sent by ev960d and luvnkitty. I would like some opinions from experienced Frenchie owners out there: I have an opportunity that has come up in which I could co-own a brindle male with my vet-he's now ten weeks old. My Daisey was a brinddle pied girl. I am still very much greiving over her loss. Is it too soonfor me to bring a new pup into the house or do you think he may fill the empty void that is now my house. My friends and family are about equally split in their opinion on the subject. What have your experiences been? I could really use the advise. Thank-you all as always. Nat's Angel

[Carolyn]

Is it too soonfor me to bring a new pup into the house or do you think he may fill the empty void that is now my house.

I can only share my own experiences after a loss. I lost my beloved Boston Jill due to a heart based tumor.... after months of treatment and heartache. I grieved for over a year (crying every day) before my husband finally insisted we get another dog....and that was Abby...my first Frenchie and my healer. I would say....get another sooner rather than later. Nothing heals the heart better than a pup. Cannot replace your girl but your love will be given to another which is a good thing.

[phoebesmom]

I am so, so sad to hear about your Daisey - much love to you and your family.

After my darling Boxer, Lexi, died, I waited a year before I could think of getting another dog - and that was Phoebe. I wish I had got her sooner because she did help mend my broken heart. I think it is a compliment to a dog that has passed on when you get another one - it means they provided so much love and joy in your life.

[Carolyn]

I found this poem by Kipling after I lost my precious Jill, Piglet and Ripley and it gave me comfort. I love the message....

The Power of the Dog

There is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.

Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie--
Perfect passsion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair
To risk your heart to a dog to tear.

When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet's unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find--it's your own affair--
But ... you've given your heart to a dog to tear.

When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!)
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone--wherever it goes--for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear.

We've sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent.
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we've kept 'em, the more do we grieve:
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-term loan is as bad as a long--
So why in--Heaven (before we are there)
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?


Rudyard Kipling

[franp]

Thirteen years ago, my cat Macks passed from cancer.. I knew he was dying and started to look for another kitten...Not that it would replace him..But I knew that the new life, the joy, would help heal my heart...To this day, I miss him.

And then Butch and CC came home.. CC after 2 weeks and Butch after a month..It would have been sooner ,if possible.. They just were not old enougn







The tears were still there.. But the distraction of the two was so welcome.. they were not Macks.Never would be..The healing of the new life is so wonderous..To this day, I love those two for the curing and smiles they gave me.. For the ability to smile again.For the knowlegde that I COULD love another again..

Natsangel.You think you can never love again..You do.. It is a different love.It is a different dog..it is different and the same..And one day..the pain stops..You smile, and you hold the pup to your heart..

Daisy will ALWAYS be with you..I say do it...It was the best thing that I did...

May I ask you,, Is your Vet Dr Laurie?

[RaiderBaby]

To lose them at all, let alone so young! My heart goes out to you.

I got Raider just about a year after we lost Barney. And still, we "compare" the two... I even told Dad "I think Barney's spirit is whispering to Raider while he is here ~ to do bad stuff!!). We both smiled and thought of Barney. It is good to keep thinking of her. That will NEVER go away. So you go right ahead and get a pup when you are ready. The only reason I waited that long is becuase my parents said "no, don't get a dog". So, when I found Raider, I didn't tell them (it's my house!)... I just went and got him and showed up at their house with him. They love him to pieces and even babysit for me...

Hugs from me, slobbers and snorts from Raider, and purrs and ankle rubs from Kyro and Zander...:)

[Piperloo]

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss of Daisey. You must be truly heartbroken. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.
Piperloo

[nat's angel]

May I ask you,, Is your Vet Dr Laurie?
__________________
Fran,Dari & CCkaht

Dear Fran, you are so intuitive. Is that where Dari came from?

[franp]

May I ask you,, Is your Vet Dr Laurie?
__________________
Fran,Dari & CCkaht

Dear Fran, you are so intuitive. Is that where Dari came from?

No, Dari did not come from Dr Laurie..

I know her; she is a wonderful person..She is in your area and I knew she had a litter recently;so I took a chance...You are very lucky to have her for a Vet...and to have one of her pups...
Please tell her I said Hello.

[imogene]

I am so sorry for your loss. We are planning on spaying Belzie within the next few weeks and I am a total wreck at the possibility of a complication.

It is so difficult to lose a pet after many years, but Daisy's passing was so unexpected, not only will you have to greive the loss of your beloved, but the years you will never have getting to know her. Another dog can never replace Daisy, but that doesn't mean you can't open your heart to another puppy - being needed by another puppy may help deal with your loss. But it is a personal decision - only you can tell when you will be ready to open your heart to a new friend.

Our thoughts are with you

[ashley1135]

My heart aches for your loss. Our furry loved ones leave such a painful void when they pass. I'll be praying for the little baby you lost and that you find comfort during this very difficult time.

[franp]

There is a page at Frenchbulldogrescue for memorials..For all pets..For anyone who has lost a loved one and would like to have a place to remember them..

The Memorial Page is like a virtual garden...to visit..when we feel the need...

[Netty]

Nat-
I am so sorry about your loss. You and Daisey are in my thoughts and I will keep you both in my prayers.

[nat's angel]

Thank-you to everone who has submitted words of support, poems and stories of their own losses. My husband and I take comfort in reading them all. We finally got a digital camera and we are going to make a small picture gallery of Daisey albeit posthumously. We are considering bringing home the new little guy on Sunday. If we "click" we're going to name him Joxer(anyone familiar with the TV series Xena will know what I'm talking about). If we keep the little guy for ourselves we will submit a gallery of him as well. Again, thank-you all for your kindness and support. Sincerely, Nat's Angel

[EllieMae]

Oh Nat, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am so scared to get Ellie Mae spayed as she has food allergies and she is allergic to strong fragrances. I am so sorry, I wish I could reach through this computer and hug you and your family. I am sobbing, I can't imagine what you are going through, but your strength and optimism shines through your posts. Good luck with meeting your new little guy...

[paulabeans]

Natsangel...I am so very saddened to hear about the passing of Daisey. My thoughts are with you and your family at this tragic time.

Paula

[nat's angel]

Dear Carolyn-I was so touched by Kipling's Power of the Dog that I'm going to mat and frame it and place it next to Daisey's picture and her urn. Members and thoughtful people like yourself are why I will continue to participate in this forum regardless of whether we get another pup right away. If the entire world supported and comforted each other like this group we would truly have heaven on earth. Thank-you. Nat's Angel

[Carolyn]

Nat's Angel....I am glad that you appreciated it as much as I did. Very special words from one of the greats....

[lfelici]

Nat, I read your post today. I' m really sorry for your lost. I'll be praying for you to get over this difficult time. Gladys

[Martina]

Nat, I am so sorry for you and your family. I couldn't imagine going through losing your baby at such a young age. I'm glad that you have been able to feel some solace with words others here have shared with you.

[Miss Donna]

Nat,
I am so sorry for the loss of of your little angel 'Daisey'. It is the most heartbreaking thing to loose a pet and when they're still just a baby it seems even more unbearable.It's just so hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you thru this time of grief.
Miss Donna